We have been asked about our life goals since we were small children. We have been surrounded by questions like what do you want to be when you grow up, do you want to have children, where is your dream home, what type of person do you want to marry, etc.

Setting life goals is important; it helps you stay on track, achieve what you want to achieve, and make the most out of your life.

Why Do You Need to Set Life Goals

Setting life goals is an important way to stay on track and make the most out of your life. Making a list of your life goals and revisiting it every year, making the proper adjustments, can help you be more focused on what you want in life and become more self-aware.

It forces you to take time each year to sit down and focus on yourself, thinking about what you want in your life. It gives you a way to track your progress and also provides you with a tangible object to hold you accountable (similar to a contract).

How to Set Life Goals

There are a number of ways to go about setting life goals, but there are a few practices that can help you head down the right path. For starters, you should limit your distractions. Making a list of your life goals requires you to get fully in touch with your inner self so you can accurately determine what you want in life.

You have to question yourself, being entirely honest with yourself, and examine the things that you want to achieve and accomplish over the course of your lifetime.

It is crucial that the life goals you choose to set for yourself are reachable. Don’t make a life goal that is impossible or highly unlikely. For example, rather than making a life goal “write a #1 best seller,” make it something more achievable like “write a book”. If the book ends up being a best-seller, that is awesome! If it does not hit the best seller list, at least you can still be proud of the fact that you completed your goal to write a book… which is still a huge accomplishment!

Once you’ve completed this self-reflection, it is a good idea to revisit your goals ever six to twelve months to make sure it still accurately reflects what you want in life.

What Are Some Examples of Life Goals

Most of the time, when people think of life goals they think of career goals or family goals. In reality, life goals are a combination of all those things and then some. This could be to reach a particular place in your job, a particular career, the time frame wherein you want to have children as well as visiting the Grand Canyon or living in a foreign country for an extended period of time. Whatever you specifically want in life.

Setting life goals is a great way to make sure your life is on the right path, keep you focused on your dreams, and help you achieve all you want in your lifetime. The process of determining and setting your life goals can also be a great experience, encouraging time spent in self-reflection. It can help you become more in-tune with yourself and better aware of your desires and dreams.

You may think it sounds difficult to set your life goals, but if you limit your distractions, stay focused, and listen to yourself, you can do it. Keep in mind that none of these goals are set in stone. The list will most likely grow and evolve as you do, changing many times. Some things will get accomplished and you will most likely lose interest in some things before you ever get close to crossing them off the list. That is fine. Keep an open mind.

Designing your life is an anatomy of choices

An important component to designing your own life is acknowledging and understanding the choices you have in your life, being willing to make the most of those choices, and leveraging the choices you have to select the best path forward for yourself.

Life is not something that just happens to you. I recently completed my training to become a Certified Canfield Trainer in the Success Principles. The very first principle we focus on is “Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life”. I couldn’t agree more! There is only one person that is responsible for the quality of your life and that is YOU!

The key to designing the life you really want is knowing exactly what your options are and using all the information at your disposal to make the best selection for you. You are where you are in life today because of the choices you have made. You always have choices on how to move forward or how to respond to an event.

Your life is defined by the choices you make. While not everything that happens in your life is up to you, how you respond to life’s circumstances and opportunities is always a matter of choice. Even when you choose not to act or react, you are still making a decision. There is nothing that is beyond your control.

Becoming Aware of Your Choices

There are certain things in life you cannot control. For example, you have no control over the circumstances of your birth or family, your genetic makeup, or the opportunities you were given as a child. However, your choices can override these circumstances.

Your choices determine how you treat others, how hard you work, and the activities in which you engage in… even at an early age. This helps form you into the person you become later in life. As you get older, you have free will to choose who to love, choose your career, and ultimately, what you will strive to achieve in life.

Acknowledging that all of these are choices in life, and not things that happen without your consent, is a big step toward designing your life. Choosing to accept responsibility for these choices, and not to blame life or others for the circumstances in which you find yourself, helps you not only move forward from your past but also accept the tremendous power you have to shape your future.

You already have all the ability within you to choose the life you want and to design the experiences that will lead you to your goal.

Using Self-Knowledge to Make Better Choices

Developing knowledge about yourself, including your fears and insecurities as well as your strengths and gifts, is essential to designing your life and attaining your goals. Until you truly know yourself, which means getting clear about your beliefs and values, you will always be vulnerable to crafting your life to please others or assessing your accomplishments against what others have achieved.

When you become aware of yourself and your inner longings and desires, you can use that information to better inform the design process for your life. Without knowing your true passions, interests, and strengths, though, you are left making decisions based on poor information.

Without self-knowledge, you are more likely to pursue work or other goals that are unsuited to your talents and passions. Instead of choosing what makes you happy, you may opt to go along with the crowd or take the advice of others when you lack sufficient insight into yourself. This type of decision-making can lead you to invest more of yourself and your money in pursuits that don’t make you happy, too.

Life is About Choice

Understanding that life is about choices and you are in charge of those options gives you the power to design the best life for you. Even opting not to choose is a choice, and only you will have to live with the consequences of those choices.

Regardless of your initial circumstances or what you were born with, your life is defined by the choices you make with how to deal with those events and what dreams you strive to attain.

Do you wake up feeling motivated by your life? Or do you just want to go back to sleep? Are you stuck in a comfortable routine? Do you feel that there is something better out there waiting for you? Maybe it is a better job or a better ____ (you fill in the blank) – but you just don’t know where to start? The door to that better job or better ____ is waiting to be opened. The key to that door is… to START! The very first step you have to take is to make a change. A small change. If you are ready to start feeling motivated to get out of bed in the morning, or to go to work, or go to the gym it is time for you to think of small changes that you could make every day. When you have something to look forward to (that new or better … whatever you choose) it is easier to jump out of bed and get started with your day.

Think about Newton’s first law of motion which states that “an object at rest remains at rest unless acted upon by an unbalanced force”. If you want to get unstuck from the same day-to-day activities of your life, leverage the power of making small changes.

If the change that you want to make in your life seem huge to you right now, there are several ways to work past that overwhelming feeling. For example, don’t focus on the big change you have to make. You will just keep wishing, waiting and hoping for something to change instead of being the catalyst for the change. Break that big change down into more manageable, smaller changes. I learned this trick from Brendon Burchard, a popular personal development trainer and author, and from my many years in project management – Whatever your desired change is, break it into five easier, less intimidating steps. Then, if necessary, take each one of those five steps and break them down into smaller action items. (To learn more of Brendon’s tips, check out his book High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way.)

The next step is really important… give each step and action item a deadline. One of my favorite quotes by Napoleon Hill is “A goal is a dream with a deadline.” Some people think of deadlines as negative things and they let deadlines stress them out. I get it. When it comes to your job, a deadline can be stressful. But if you have a good plan, you will make it to the finish. This is your life that we are talking about here! Giving yourself a deadline is just one way to encourage yourself to take action. Your deadlines can be as short or as long as you need… just do at least one thing every day to reach your goal. Like I’ve said before, even if you were to take one hit to a tree every day, sooner or later the tree will fall.

Another way to push yourself to take action is to get an accountability partner. This is someone that will push you to reach for your goals, even when you are faced with competing priorities or are tired or simply don’t have the energy. Your accountability partner can be a friend, a family member, or someone that you work with. (If you find that a friend or family member doesn’t push you the way that you need to be pushed, your accountability partner can be someone like me, a Results Coach.)

The ultimate goal here is to take action every day. Even small actions, every day, over time, will eventually get you to where you want to be. Small steps and small changes lead to success. Just do something different. Even if you have to start by drinking water instead of soda, or wearing suits instead of casual wear… making small changes gets you into the change mode.

I use this technique too. I used it when I started my coaching business. Everything seemed so overwhelming… business name, website, training, marketing, etc. I just started taking little actions every day that would get me closer to my goal. And I got an accountability partner.

I decided to use this technique with my health. I want to lose 30 pounds (and keep it off this time) so every week, I will be implementing one positive change for my health. For example, week one, I started drinking at least 64 ounces of water every day. Week two, I started adding 30 minutes of cardio at least 5 days a week. Week three, I will eat at least one serving of fruit every morning. Etc. Then, once I get to my goal weight, I will implement small changes to maintain my weight.

There is a second piece of Newton’s law of motion that says “an object in motion stays in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force”. In other words, continuing to make small positive changes will keep the ball rolling in the direction of your goals. This technique enables you to skip having to find the courage or the motivation or the willpower to tackle a big change or a big goal.